November: How Can Disconnecting Help Deepen Our Connections?
As we continue through the month and have had our first dose of family and friend reunions this holiday season, we might all be feeling like we need a little more time to ourselves or to get back into our usual routine. While connecting with others and gathering together is important, we always need to balance that. We are so often thinking of more - more visits, more drinks, more pie, one more thing off the to-do list, but what about trying to do less and seeing how that can help you do better, connect more deeply, and, eventually, do more of what you want instead of just saying yes to everything.
Arianna Huffington, of the Huffington Post, has recently written much about the importance of sleep and doing less in order to thrive after having some of her own health issues from overworking. She said, "Disconnecting from our technology to reconnect with ourselves is absolutely essential for wisdom."
Think about it, if we are always connected to the external world, then we will likely lose touch with our deeper self and inner wisdom. Our brains and bodies need time to assimilate all the incoming data and interactions that seem to be happening at a faster and faster pace. It takes time to digest information and interactions just as it takes time to digest our food, and what helps both of those digestions is being more relaxed. By disconnecting we, in turn, will open up more creativity, more wisdom, and more happiness.
So what can you do to disconnect?
- Turn off your phone for a few hours or a whole day, or maybe just turn off certain apps like email or social media
- Put the to-do lists down and take a nap or lay down for 5-30 minutes
- Say no to a holiday gathering or party that you know will only add to your stress levels
- Have a night in with just a small group of friends or family, and maybe even suggest limited or no phone use!
- Turn off your laptop, phone and TV 30 minutes before bed and read
- Go out for a walk without music or commute without music, radio, or a podcast
What else helps you disconnect? We all need different things to disconnect and unwind, but we all certainly need the reminder more and more of just how important disconnecting is for our health and well-being. Disconnecting goes hand in hand with connecting to ourselves, so if you haven't read the post about connecting to yourself or if you need a reminder, check it out here. Here's to finishing the month off with doing less and saying no a little more.