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Hello again thirsty readers – This week I have something a bit different – a Non-Fiction review. Sometimes I like to pick up a book that I think will teach me something about life and living and when I saw the title of this one the title was a representation of how I had been feeling lately. Today’s review is There Are No Grown-Ups: A Midlife Coming-of-Age Story by Pamela Druckerman. I never feel like I have grown up so I figured I would give this one a shot.
There Are No Grown-Ups: A Midlife Coming-of-Age Story by Pamela Druckerman
[Disclaimer: This book was received from Penguin Press in exchange for an honest review. This in no way alters my opinion or review.]
A few things you should know before getting into my review/ ramble – I was really not a huge fan of this book, BUT that does not mean that it is bad. Some readers might really get a kick out of it, and be in the right places in their lives to appreciate it much more than I did. I guess I am just still not grown-up enough to enjoy this one.
Here is a bit of back-story on me: I am a thirty-something, who really loves books that are 'too young' for her, I am ok with that, but I can’t help comparing myself to my mother and aunts as I age. At this point in my mother's life she already had a family and was an ‘adult’, married and supporting her family. I go through my days never really feeling like an adult or a grown-up unless I am paying bills and I thought this book would give me some insight into that feeling or at the very least tell me it was ok to act like a fool all the time.
on the synopsis (which you can read below), I expected some humor and knew
going in that it might be over my head - again I am in my thirties and the
author is using this book to write about being in her forties. There were some
times when I connected with the book, but most of the time, not so much. It was
a good read though.
I think my major turn off was that only about half of it seemed like a personal journey, while the rest was interviews and research about various topics. Some of those topics, I was interested in – for instance, there was a lot of Psychology and I am a fan of that, but it left me feeling disconnected from the author and in a biography style book, I am looking for that connection more than anything. I want the author to help me relate to them in ways that may help me grow. What I expected was a witty coming-of-age into her forties rant/ life lesson overview and what I mostly found was something way too serious and a little depressing for my liking. I know that people change as they get older but I really hope some things just stay the same. The author talks about issues with her husband and how she makes bad friends and her ‘good’ friends are all really strange (at least to me). I ended the book thinking: “What the heck was that? Did I really learn anything? Was this worth the read?” What the book did do, was make me realize without a doubt that I am happy with who I am, a reader of books that are geared to others below my age group, a nerd who will still love Harry Potter even when she hits 40, who still thinks that maybe somewhere Fairies are real (come on, people can believe in angels but Fae are off limits?! I don't get it), and someone who really believes that there are no grown-ups… just people pretending all the time. Therefore, while the tone of the book made me more depressed than enlightened, I think it was worth the read – any who knows maybe women in their forties will get more of a connection out of this book as it is intended.
Enough whining and on to the wine!
Today we are drinking something from Applebee’s. A few weeks ago, I was having dinner and decided that I should have a drink and a big one…
During Happy Hour and Late Night (2-5pm and 9-close) this drink is $3.99. It is called a Blackberry Mucho Sangria. Sangria is a wine and fruit punch of sorts which sometimes has juices or brandy included as well. They are normally red but can be made with white wines as well if that is your jam.
The Applebee’s Blackberry Mucho Sangria is a red wine sangria that comes in practically a bowl of a glass and it was delicious. I am a fan of fruity alcohol, as you can probably tell from the last few editions of B&B. This one is sharp tasting, dry and served very cold. Topped with blackberries, orange and cherries, this drink was a refreshing end to my day. While this one was wonderful they offer a bunch of different flavors depending on the season and location. I have seen Frozen Strawberry, Watermelon, and Red Apple advertised as well as the Blackberry.
If you prefer a non-alcoholic choice, Applebee’s also has a great menu of mixed non-alcoholic options too!
Blackberry Sangria from Applebees
About the Book
Publisher: Penguin Press
Release Date: May 18, 2018
The best-selling author of Bringing Up Bebe investigates life in her forties, and wonders whether her mind will ever catch up with her face.
When Pamela Druckerman turns 40, waiters start calling her "Madame," and she detects a disturbing new message in mens' gazes: I would sleep with her, but only if doing so required no effort whatsoever.
Yet forty isn't even technically middle-aged anymore. And after a lifetime of being clueless, Druckerman can finally grasp the subtext of conversations, maintain (somewhat) healthy relationships and spot narcissists before they ruin her life. What are the modern forties, and what do we know once we reach them? What makes someone a "grown-up" anyway? And why didn't anyone warn us that we'd get cellulite on our arms? Part frank memoir, part hilarious investigation of daily life, There Are No Grown-Ups diagnoses the in-between decade when... - Everyone you meet looks a little bit familiar. - You're matter-of-fact about chin hair. - You can no longer wear anything ironically. - There's at least one sport your doctor forbids you to play. - You become impatient while scrolling down to your year of birth. - Your parents have stopped trying to change you. - You don't want to be with the cool people anymore; you want to be with your people.
- You realize that everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently.
- You know that it's ok if you don't like jazz. Internationally best-selling author and New York Times contributor Pamela Druckerman leads us on a quest for wisdom, self-knowledge and the right pair of pants. A witty dispatch from the front lines of the forties, There Are No Grown-ups is a (midlife) coming-of-age story, and a book for anyone trying to find their place in the world.
About the Author:
Pamela Druckerman is an American journalist and the author of Bringing Up Bébé (The Penguin Press: 2012); the U.K. version of the same book - French Children Don’t Throw Food (Doubleday UK: 2012); and Lust In Translation (The Penguin Press: 2007).
From 1997 to 2002 she was a staff reporter at The Wall Street Journal, based in Buenos Aires, São Paulo and New York. Her Op-eds and articles have since appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, The Observer, the Financial Times, New York Magazine, Monocle and Marie Claire. She has been a commentator on the Today Show, National Public Radio, Public Radio International, Al Jazeera International, BBC Women’s Hour, the CBC, CNBC, and Oprah.com. Pamela has a Master of International Affairs from Columbia University. She has studied (with varying degrees of success) French, Spanish, Portuguese, Japanese and Hebrew, and has trained in improvisational comedy at the Upright Citizens Brigade and Chicago City Limits. She lives in Paris.