I often get asked why I decided to write a blog. Why would I want to choose to write about something so personal? And why would I want to share it with world? Or why would I want to share it with everyone on Facebook, and those in my surrounding communities on DailyUV?
I want people to know that being morbidly obese isn’t something to be ashamed about. We all have our own personal struggles and no one knows what they are unless we chose to share them. For example, most people wouldn’t know by looking at me that I had 4 surgeries in 4 years, or that I have a major brain disorder. They also can’t tell when they look at me that despite my illness, (that puts many people onto disability) I work 65 hours a week, but when a stranger sees me, all they chose to see is my fat.
I want the world to know that body shaming is alive and well and it isn’t okay. You don’t know that persons struggle. I want to try and educate people, even if its just one person. I want to be able to help. I want to reach out to people. I want to facilitate body love, self-love, and let people know that everyone is beautiful.
We teach children it isn’t okay to bully (or do we)? Children are watching you. You tell them they shouldn’t make fun of others but they watch you, while you make fun of others. Internet bullies are the worst. It is amazing what people say on the other side of a keyboard.
I am not saying that it is okay for me to be morbidly obese, but what I am saying is that it is not your place to comment on it. Anymore than it would be to comment on the color of your skin, your sexual orientation, etc. Discrimination is discrimination. Bullying is Bullying. Just like love is love.
I understand that I need to be
smaller to be healthier and I am working on that. I am making some great healthy eating
choices. I have a long ways to go in the
exercise world and I am 100% aware of that. When someone bullies a bigger
person it doesn’t make him or her want to lose weight, more often than not it
has the adverse affect. Either they feel
bad about themselves and they eat, or they go on the defensive and says there
is nothing wrong with me and how I look (which their isn’t by the way) and will
continue their lifestyle. That person
and only that person needs to decide when they want to lose the excess
So what can you do to help me?
Don’t be so quick to judge. Offer me healthy recipe ideas. Offer to go on a walk with me. Help me try new foods. Invite me to do new things. Get me out of the house and be active. Do I take all advice easily and readily? No. Does anyone? But I am trying. I am learning. I am re-learning a lifetime of habits and I don’t expect them to change overnight, but I do expect them to change.
I’m a work in progress. I am getting better everyday.